When we are unwilling to look deeply and courageously into our own lives, we can easily violate others in many subtle ways that we may not even be aware of.
Our dedication to self awareness, healing, and discovery fully correlates with our ability to be there in a positive way for another. If we don't take the time and effort to dig deep inside ourselves, and notice some of the patterns behind our actions, we run the risk inadvertently hurting others, even if we have the best intentions!
Often times as we've been hurt, our adaptions speak in the world from that hurt because it was the only way we functioned or thought we could gain, love, connection, or validation.
Unfortunately without taking the time to look, some of these "adaptations" may not be as objectively helpful as we might think.
In fact, and we will NEVER see this without the perspective of inner work and self awareness they maybe just as hurtful as that original hurt placed upon us...
It is time to dig deep in your self and relational awareness so that your empowerment leads to more healing and connection and less hurt and disconnection. Both within yourself and your relationships with others.
Be prepared to take the time to self analyze! It's necessary.